SEVEN REASONS WHY YOUR 7years OLD RELATIONSHIP DIDN'T END IN MARRIAGE

Often times, you hear people say he/she broke my heart after so many years of dating. You wonder why it had to take that long before he/she realised they couldn't continue.

One thing to consider is, for the fact that it lasted for so long means there was love in that relationship. 

Here are seven reasons why such relationships break up after so much time. 

1. Lack of attention: At the first year of dating, you can't go a day without hearing from him/her but after sometime you realize you no longer text, make long calls or even chat. you feel the love is already there and so there's no need to care. But love is like a plant when you don't water it regularly, no matter the manure, it dies. So no matter your gifts, if there's no proper attention which is priceless, the love fades away. 

2. Lack of communication: similar to number one, never stop communicating about the little things that happens in your life each day, be quick to tell him when that guy at the gym or that neighbour starts hitting on you, be quick to tell her when that her friend starts paying you unnecessary visits in skimpy clothes. Always seize an opportunity to remind your partner how much you love them. 

3. Blurry vision of the future: you expected to own a house by 25 but you're 27 and you haven't gotten your home, she is expected to graduate at 23 but she's 25 and still in her finals. Always have this in mind: whatever steps are needed to achieve your goals are collective steps. You're not waiting for her and she's not waiting for you. You both are waiting for each other till the time is right. 

4. The birth of imperfections: No one is perfect. Most times at the first and second year, you feel she's perfect or he's perfect and sooner than later, you start seeing the imperfections. Don't inhabit the mindset that there's someone out there who's perfect. If Adam was awake when God was creating Eve, I bet he would have placed an order of the kind of woman he wants. No one is perfect not even you, if you can leave with his/her imperfections or work towards mending it, do it for the sake of love. Cause if you go out and date someone in less than six months and get married, the imperfections will come up when you are married and it might be too late. The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.

5. Look at how far you've come: most couples break up because they look at how far they have to go and not how far they've gone. 

6. Revenge: She forgot your birthday is not enough reason to purposely forget hers. Two wrongs don't make a right. If he fell into temptation and begged for your forgiveness, if you must forgive, forget also. It shouldn't be a yardstick for you to hurt him in return, you're puncturing the love you both share. 

7. Make good use of time: Never allow a new colleague, class mate or neighbor take so much of your time than your partner, especially if it's the opposite sex, infatuations and lust are the weeds in your garden of love, they are quick to choke your love.Beware!. Snatch every opportunity to pay her a visit, always discuss about the future and ways to get things right, read your partner like a book and know when to say "I'm sorry" .